Expecting Why?
Why Parents are dissatisfied / disappointed with children?
If we see and try to find out people around us, why they are not satisfied with what they have? It’s good to have ambition in life; unless people have ambition they cannot achieve. Ambition is a strong desire to achieve something whereas Expectation is a strong belief that something will happen. Having a goal is one part and achieving the same is another. It is not necessary that one can achieve the set goal on first or second attempt only. Because result are directly proportionate to the effort and interest made by the scholar during preparation and on final attempt.
Now, if one has expected high but result is not as per the expectation, the person may be disappointed or sad or depressed; in this situation, the reason behind dissatisfaction is expectation! a wrong expectation can spoil the entire life of the person, whether they be Students, Parents, Business Man, Employer/Employee, Husband/Wife, Sport Person, any one or in any relation.
Example:
Husband and Wife or Wife and Mother in law are not happy with each other; the only reason is expectation, if wife expects something from her Husband or from Mother in Law and they do not react / respond as per her expectation, she will be unhappy. She will continue being unhappy because her expectation are not fulfilled (which was not even know to her Husband or Mother in Law). This is how relation spoils, resulting many problems in life.
Same way, Employer or Employees are not happy with each other. Boss is expecting something from their employee and employee is doing something else with his wisdom. Resultant is same and the reason behind dissatisfaction is also same.
Sports Person and FAN, A sport person goes into deep depression after losing a match. He may not be bad performer, but he always play to win. Sometime expectation of FANs also creates dissatisfaction in the mind of player. Their mind always feels the pleasure what happen if they will not live up to the expectation of FAN. This is actually an undue pleasure. One who is capable of handling pressure will go ahead even after failure and one who is not capable he will collapse.
Parents & Children
We also see cases of dissatisfaction between Parents and Children or Teacher and Students. From the above cited examples we can say that the reason behind dissatisfaction is expectation. Right?
What Next?
Should Parents expect less from children? Or should Teacher expect less form student?
No,
Expectation should be high; one should not lower the bar of standards. But, expecting same performance from everybody should not be done; because every child / students are human beings, created equally by nature but with some uniqueness.
Only thing we need to understand the aptitude of child / student so that instead of expecting something from child / student we should direct/guide them in pursuing whatever they want, based on their aptitude. It is true that as a Parents / Teacher we know much better that what a child / student should do, but question is not what a child / student should do, question is what a child / student can do?
None of the livelihood earning hobbies are bad, whether it be Sports, Music, Arts, Photography, Cooking, Painting, etc. one can select any hobby as their career. Once the goal is set, now it is the responsibility of parents / teacher to direct / guide a child / student in achievement of goal.
Instead of expecting fish to fly, create history by helping a fish of lake to cross an ocean.